This post is all over the place. But these things have been circling in my mind today. I’m learning to run a new kind of business. Guys. I don’t know what I’m doing yet. So while I’m plodding along my path I’ve had a few ah-ha moments.
Instapot philosophy- I think I touched on this in one of my other Instapot posts. But when I first received this tool as a gift I was so excited but then I didn’t use it. Bc I knew failure is part of learning. I did not want to cook a gross meal bc I didn’t know what the heck I was doing.
It’s why I used to hate hands on classes in the salon (guys you just fail in front of your peers) but now nearly a decade into a technique driven field, I look forward to the opportunity to fail in that safe environment. So I can succeed when it counts.
Rob’s sage advice was use the Instapot everyday for 2 weeks. Just burn through the learning curve. Then you will have some fails but you’ll know exactly when this tool will save you time and how to be successful with it. I did, we had some fails. I’m soooo much more comfortable with it. I know it’s not the tool for every job, I know when to reach for it.
So how does this apply to my business? I’m new at learning this business. I’m making some dumb mistakes. I know when I look back at this chapter I will roll my eyes as some of my “great ideas” but deciding everyday to keep going. To keep burning through the learning curve is how I get the knowledge of when to use each tool. I used to be so quick to give up at the first bump in the road. The life lesson that I keep circling back to is that you just keep coming back to that hurdle.. it will just keep on showing up until you learn how to get past it.
So my encouragement for you today if you are stumbling and stumbling and feeling like a fool. If you are making mistakes.. you’re probably doing more work then most people. Most people give up at the first hurdle. Mistakes mean you’re trying. Keep getting up keep experimenting keep asking those with experience and don’t sit down and give up. It’s true for Instapot’s and life. ..Deep thoughts from Christy’s mobile office..
Mom guilt and BA biblical women-
Can I be real? -what is the deal with the mom guilt? I spend most of my time with my kids. I try to feed them the right things and teach them manners, and self respect, and how to human. We have parenting philosophies (“we are raising adults.. not children”) we read books and listen to podcasts we do “alllll the thangs” Rob and I dissect our interactions with our children and discuss how we could have done better how will we handle it tomorrow. And yet. Mom guilt. At least once a week I ask Rob, “am I shitty mom?” (Sorry language.. I said I’m being real) he says no, of course not, and I walk away thinking but am I? J didn’t get a bath yesterday, today he told me I wasn’t listening (and he was right 🙈) I definitely feed him non-organic fruit snacks as a bribe to get them to eat supper.
Am I a failure? Is all lost?
Of course not. We love big. Sometimes we fail big. We teach our children how to act with grace and humility when we do. We say things like “you were right, I was wrong. I shouldn’t have said that. I can see I hurt you, I won’t do that again”
But comparison is the thief of joy. Too often I let it steal mine. There is always someone doing it better, who seems to have it all together. I know exactly how to punish myself too, I load my social media and deep dive into the page of who ever is doing it better today and berate myself.
In these moments when I catch myself I try to imagine Bob Newhart saying,
“STOP IT! STOPITSTOPITSTOPIT!”
I’m a work in progress.. 🙄 so this week the big ugly thing causing me mom guilt is my business (which I can run at home from my phone while I’m doing to mom things and taking care of my kiddos.. 🙄) But there is that inner dialogue.. Am I failing as a mom Bc I’m focused on something else too?
I was really searching my heart on this one. Like full on guilt spiral. I went for a run and listened to a team training. The speaker said something that hit me right in the feels.
Look at the women in the Bible. They weren’t just sitting around. They weren’t only living to take care of their kids. They had stuff to do.
My favorite example of this was the Proverbs 31 gal. (You know who we are all supposed to be when we grow up..)
👊🏻she takes care of her hubby
👊🏻she works with her hands
👊🏻she gets up early to provide food for her fam
👊🏻she buys property
👊🏻she makes profit by having people work for her and she works her business
👊🏻she works late
👊🏻she takes care of the home
👊🏻 she holds on to her own strength and dignity
👊🏻she makes her hubby look good
👊🏻she doesn’t waste time sitting around
👊🏻she fears the Lord.
She’s a BAD ASS. She didn’t sit on her cell phone and make a list of reasons why she sucks and she’s failing at life becauuuuseee she had shit to do. (Again language I’m sorry this my real real though) So, is it all over for me with the self inflicted nonsense guilt. (No of course not I’m just a mere mortal) but I do feel armed with a new tool. She’s the model woman we are all supposed to strive to be “a woman of virtue”
-and she was a total Bad Ass who handled her shit. That is a woman I want to be. I hope if you’re reading this especially if you’re a momma. This brings you encouragement. -if you find yourself in the self hatred loop google Bob Newhart and smile and decide to be a bad ass instead.
***Upon reading this before publishing it occurred to me that a woman of virtue would curse less.. work in progress people.. work in progress.. 😉